Monthly Archives: October 2016

Oct 30

CLARITY

By Joy Perugini | Mindset Mania

diamondLet’s get clear on a few things, shall we?

And when I say clear, I mean CRYSTAL clear.

Like a perfectly round, classic cut diamond with no inclusions.

It’s time to lift the fog, the veil from your eyes, and harness your true power. The only way to effectively do this is to get clear. Very, very, VERY clear. On what you DESIRE. On what you CHOOSE to bring into your life (and you do choose it all, you know… the good, the bad and the ugly).

Your world is about to SHIFT. It’s going to change in every possible way, and in the most POSITIVE way, should you allow for it, but first?

You.

Must.

Get.

Clear.

You must DECIDE what it is that you truly WANT!!!

And until you do? Nothing will change. Nothing will shift. Nothing will ever get any better.

There’s work to be done on an internal level, if you want to see your heart’s truest desires come to fruition in your outer world. And honestly, it’s not hard work. Nope, not at ALL. But, it does take a little bit of effort and whole lot of consistency. And, of course, you MUST. GET. CLEAR. And it also helps to know what you’re doing ;)

Ya know, like HOW to get clear?

Yep. That helps a lot.

So just how exactly do we accomplish this task of getting clear? It’s actually a fairly simple process, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s easy. It all starts with getting quiet, and facing your true self. You need to look YOU dead in the eye and call yourself out. For being afraid. For being a fake. For playing small. And quite possibly for being an ass.

You have to be willing to stand up to your ego and show it who’s boss.

Your ego will tell you that you’re not good enough, that you don’t have time, that it’s too late, that nobody will like you if you get what you want (by the way, if that does happen, that one is all about THEM, not you… it’s just their insecurity surfacing), that you’re not talented enough, and that you’re not worthy.

But I’m here to assure you that you are SO worthy of EVERYTHING your little heart desires. And should you lose a few stragglers along the way? So be it. They likely don’t belong on your team anyway, and DREAMS NEED TEAMS, baby!

There’s certainly a process, a system if you will, to getting clear and making all that you desire materialize. It takes time, and a lot more explanation than I can give here, but this will give you a good start nonetheless.

Begin by getting quiet and alone in a safe, relaxing space. Take at least ten nice, deep, cleansing breaths. Close your eyes and focus on releasing your fears and doubts with each exhale (inhale peace, exhale any and all regrets). Imagine yourself at your truest, your happiest, your LIGHTEST and BRIGHTEST!

And then?

Get out some paper and something you love to write with (pen, pencil, sparkly crayon, whatever feels right!), and ask yourself…

What do I really want?

And then write. that. shit. down.

C’mon, you knew it was coming ;)

This is where the real work begins, and you MUST DO THE WORK, if you ever want anything to change.  And you need to OWN it. Period.

No matter what you desire (more happiness, love, health, wealth, fun, quality relationships, fame, fortune, WHATEVER), you must begin by getting very CLEAR and SPECIFIC about what your desire actually IS, and then know (without an ounce of doubt!) that it’s coming. And just to be clear (while we’re on the topic of clarity), you don’t need to just pick ONE of your heart’s desires…

YOU. CAN. HAVE. THEM. ALL.

And all at the same time too!!!

You just have to BELIEVE you can have it all, wholeheartedly! That whole, “you can’t have your cake and eat it too” thing is complete crap! Someone with a less than enlightened mind decided that statement was true, and for them it likely WAS true! I guarantee you it became their reality, because they believed it… you can see how dangerously cyclical this can become (and fast!), and why it’s IMPERATIVE that you keep your mindset positive, and not let those nasty, negative thoughts sneak in.

Now, don’t start panicking on me or anything, okay? The good news is that your POSITIVE thoughts are hundreds of times more powerful than your negative ones, and you can cancel, clear, delete negative thoughts just by reframing them into the positive.

And then, there’s expectation. What are you expecting? Because if you’re writing and speaking all of these positive mantras and affirmations of an abundant life, but then continue to EXPECT the things you don’t want (like bills you can’t pay, or people not to support you, or your health to deteriorate), then you pretty much just flushed all of your positive efforts down the toilet.

Please, please, pleeeeease, for the love of all that is good in the world, EXPECT the arrival of your hearts truest desires, expect your DREAMS to become your reality, expect your GOOD, just as surely as you expect to wake up every time you fall asleep.

All you really need to do is to keep feeding your subconscious mind with positive, uplifting fuel (you can stick around here for more of that, by the way!), and you may very well need to get clear in some other respects as well (like cleansing your body, home, relationships, etc.).  Clearing, cleansing, detoxing, however you want to say it, all boils down to the same starting block… you getting in touch with YOU and deciding to DO.THE. WORK.

If you ever want things to change, you have to put in the effort, and that can be scary, but everything you desire is on the other side of your fear… that much I can promise you.  I was once told that you have to spend money to make money (it was right before I invested over $85,000 into my first fitness studio), and that’s actually a fairly true assessment… you have to make the investment of energy, and money is just a form of energy, in order to bring your dreams into reality (that’s why tithing is such a powerful practice). You have to truly BELIEVE in those dreams though, and more importantly, believe in yourself.

I’m always here to infuse love and light into your world and to instill FAITH in you of your ability to make your dreams your reality, but to do so, you need to get uncomfortable. And then you need to get comfortable in your discomfort. This is the only way we can UPLEVEL and create a new normal in our lives.

So here’s the deal. There’s a rare opportunity available right now (that won’t come around again until next year), but it’s not for everyone… in fact, at the moment, it’s only for TWO of you beautiful people out there.  It takes you putting an investment of faith, time, effort and money into becoming the YOU that you truly KNOW you are meant to be. It means getting CRYSTAL CLEAR on what you really want. It means making NO EXCUSES. And it means me giving you my signature “in-your-face encouragement” all along the way. You’ll gain FULL ACCESS to me and my arsenal of knowledge, intuitive insight and pure MAGIC on the daily for a full NINETY DAYS (that’s THREE MONTHS)! You can click right here to check out the details… I look forward to working with you.

Oct 05

It Wasn’t Me

By Joy Perugini | Real and Raw

JoyZumbaHere’s what I’ve found …

You always, always, ALWAYS must consider the source.

Of your information, for this post’s purposes.

BUT, of all that IS as well ;)

When you hear someone talking about someone or something, realize that it is THEIR story from THEIR perspective, and that in the end? Just a story at that.  And if it’s a story about someone else? Or something someone else supposedly said about you? Consider. the. source.

Ask yourself what the person telling “said story” is gaining from sharing it with you. Because I assure you, they are getting something out of it… there’s always a pay-off.

Misery just loooooves company, so just stop for a second and ask yourself, “Does this seem right?” And then consider how you’re feeling… does it feel right? Your feelings are your internal GPS, always guiding and directing you, so plug-in (to Source), check-in, and consider whether the person this story is about would actually want you to know the information being conveyed (if it’s even true).

And what about the person telling you all of this?

Really just gossiping, if we’re going to call a spade a spade.

Attention seeking.

Sometimes, you just need to catch yourself in the midst of it… the drama, that is… shake it off and literally cut them off (really, shut them up). For your own sake, as well as theirs! And let’s not forget the person they’re slinging shit about!

You’re either going to be the person who does the right thing in this scenario, or you’re not. There’s no other role to play here. You’re either a  part of the solution, or you’re a part of the problem. Period.

So, the next time you find yourself in the position where someone starts the conversation with something along the lines of, “Did you hear about what happened to (insert name of person being slandered here),” or “Oh. My. God. Can you even believe what (insert name of person being slandered here) said about (insert name of another person possibly being slandered here),” just stop the Crazy Train that’s about to derail in front of you and be. the. better. person.

What?! You think “slander” is too strong of a word? I assure you it’s not. It really is that damaging to all involved… if not on a physical level, then most certainly on an energetic one.

If it helps, just keep in mind the nasty Karmic backlash you’re saving yourself from.

Oh, you don’t know that Universal Law?

Ah-yup. It’s the Law of Karma, baby, and I can guarantee you that whatever you say, or take part in saying, about another person (think judgement, ridicule, and any other not-so-nice thing you can come up with), someone else will surely say about you, and that someone else will likely be someone that you care about.

Are we clear?!

The answer should be a resounding, “CRYSTAL!” (Thank you, Tom Cruise in A Few Good Men!)

Now, let me explain to you why I’ve jumped up on this little soapbox today…

As most know, I closed my fitness studio, after nine years of business, a little less than a year and a half ago with no intention of ever looking back. And somewhat surprisingly (in hindsight, I suppose not so surprisingly), when I did, I pissed a few people off. Honestly, most people completely understood why I made the very difficult decision to close my doors, and recognized how emotionally challenging it was for me more than anyone else, but there were some exceptions. Even more surprising, some of those exceptions I considered among my closest friends.

Instead of wanting to see things through to the end with me (I gave all of my clients and staff two months notice, which was honestly far more than necessary), a select few clients, and even one instructor, decided to jump ship early and go on their merry way.

I stayed in integrity. I was hurt, but refrained from becoming part of the drama. I kept my head down and my mouth shut, and did right by everyone I could, including myself.  And yet, there were STILL those few.

Funny, because approximately ten months later, I re-opened. It was entirely unexpected, and actually came about in the most purely MAGICAL way (I’ll share that story on another day), so today, I’m back to getting strong, dancing and flowing in the very same space that I was in before! The big difference is that now, it’s completely in alignment and on my own terms. And those people who exited stage left?

Not around.

Not that they’re not welcome, mind you (ALL that choose to be light, bright and everything right are always welcome through the doors of my studio), but they probably feel kinda uncomfortable about the unpleasantries they spewed on their way out last time around. I have nothing but love and light for all of them, and if they came to me to make things right between us, I’d always welcome them back to the “clubhouse” with open arms.

BUT, ya wanna know something about those guys? Well, from what I can tell, they’re still in their same dark and lonely space of alienating themselves from everyone around them (thankfully NOT me, because I’m now out of the line of fire) by talking trash to one person about another person, and then still a third, fourth, or likely even FIFTH person about those two people, and mistakenly thinking it’s not going to come back around to kick THEM in the ass. It’s hard not to hear things (and people do like to confide in me not only as a friend, but as also as a coach), and it’s perfectly okay to lend an ear to a friend, family member, or client, but don’t become a part of the problem. Instead, help the person reaching out to you to take a step back, look at the situation from a third-party perspective, detach, and then diffuse the situation.

Here’s the thing, if you start talking shit to me about someone else, I’m going to just assume that as soon as you walk away from me, you’ll start talking shit to someone else about me. As a good business owner, and a decent  human being, I can honestly say that I did my VERY BEST to make the transition out of my studio as painless as possible for everyone involved, but in a situation like that, it was impossible to avoid discomfort altogether. I honored each and every dollar that I owed to anyone who may have purchased a pass to my studio before I knew I was closing. I gave ample notice to everyone that I could get in touch with, and I stopped membership sales immediately upon deciding to close. I did everything I could to make everyone as happy as I could. But in the end?

It wasn’t about me.

It wasn’t about me AT ALL.

It was (always is, and always will be) about them.

That’s exactly what I told my friend today while discussing a situation she’s having in her personal life. And that’s why I felt strongly pulled to share this information with you fine folks here. The next time that you feel someone is not treating you well, or you find out the someone has said nasty things about you, or is saying something about someone else TO you, you’re now armed with the knowledge that it’s not about you, or the person you’re hearing rumors about, but it’s ALL about whoever the person is right in front of you slinging the BS.

And, for the sake of all that is good in the world, please DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. Go ahead and call them out. And please, please, please, please pleeeeease, I beseech you, please consider the source, and The Source, before adding your energy to the situation. You truly CAN be the change you wish to see in the world.

If you need a little help in getting centered, plugging-in and truly vibrating at an energy level of LOVE or ABOVE, you can click right here. And if you need my assistance at a higher level, just email joy@joyfitnation.com, and I’ll provide you with the details of working with me as your personal coach.