No. Seriously. When did … I mean … how did I … wait a minute … WHAT?!?! I remember having a conversation with my mom about four years ago. I mentioned how fast time was flying by … that it seemed the older you get, the faster it goes, and she said, “Wait ‘til you turn 70!”
So, really … what is this all about? And how in God’s name am I actually 40 years old, when I swear that things from my twenties feel like they just happened yesterday? I mean crystal clear memories of my college roommates in Charlotte, almost two years’ worth of basking in the sun on the pristine beaches of Maui, adopting my puggy puppy who is now 10 years old! I know it’s not just me. Everyone says it right? “Time flies when you’re having fun!” And for me it’s shown true … this life of mine is pretty freakin’ awesome and the days, weeks, months and years are passing by at the speed of light.
I’ve never really had much of an issue with birthdays actually. In fact, I usually look forward to them. I always tell everyone, “you’re as old as you think you are” when they make a negative comment about their age, and typically people think I’m much younger than I actually am, so it’s honestly never bothered me.
Until about two weeks before my fortieth birthday.
I’m best known for being a motivator. A leader. A teacher. A trainer. A coach. I’m pretty much as positive as positive gets, so I was a little shocked at myself for feeling “not-so-excited” about my approaching birthday. Now, in my defense, I’d had one hell of a couple of weeks. My dog fell suddenly ill (he’s much improved now, thank God), my work demands had been extraordinary to say the least, we had a literal blizzard and then another monster snowstorm a week apart in the Northeast, and I was fighting a cold to boot. I was fried. And even I’m allowed to be fried once in a while. On the actual day of the celebration of my birth, I was snowed in … unable to leave the house unless I had a snowmobile (I’m talking over a foot of snow and there was a state-wide driving ban anyway). Oh! And the groundhog saw his shadow (little fucker).
My birthday sucked. I mean honestly … the worse birthday on record. Would you like to know why? Because I was dreading it. I liked my thirties. In fact, I’m quite partial to threes in general, so it was a super fun decade for me, and I just didn’t want to see it go. I mean, don’t get me wrong. My thirties had their ups and downs (I mean some SERIOUSLY BIG ups and downs), but overall I wouldn’t change one day of them, because I wouldn’t be where I am right now. But I digress. The reason my birthday was an uber letdown, was because I was a pissy little miserable brat. My foul mood brought on a foul day. I almost forgot to mention that I broke my toe by walking face first into a wall that night too! Oh yeah. Walking and texting through the dark house, all in the name of “multitasking”… I was trying to do too much at once, and I was stopped dead in my tracks … I mean like literally was brought to my knees (I was lucky to have not knocked a tooth out)! I cried from the pain and started laughing at the same time, knowing I had brought it all on myself.
What you resist persist, and I was resisting forty with all my might. Well, it came anyway and the first twenty-four hours of it royally bit the big one. It was around 10:00 PM the night before my big day, that I realized forty was coming whether I liked it or not, so I might as well embrace it. Truth be known, turning forty is better than the alternative of “not” turning forty, right? Many people aren’t even afforded the privilege. So I had to shift my thinking. This diva needed to detox! Recognizing full well that I had brought all of this misery upon myself, I decided to quit the shit, dust off my smile and get back to being happy to be alive. Funny how quickly things started to turn around after that. My dog was home from the Pet E.R. and making his way back to his healthy, happy self, my toe began to heal and feel MUCH better within just a few days of being properly cared for, and although there was plenty of snow to shovel, I was able to see it in all of its beauty and look at the blanket of white as a clean slate with which to start off my forty-first year of life. Annnnnd since that mental shift, some amazing things have happened to me. Things to be happy about … things to give thanks for. I have an incredible life filled with many blessings, as do you. I just needed to clear my head of all the junk (the fear, the self-doubt, the inner-critic telling me what forty should look and feel like). I had to dump all of the negativity and make room for the positive to enter once again, and I did. I cleaned house, and I feel absolutely amazing having done so. I’m ready to rock the big FOUR-O like it’s nobody’s business
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Joy M. Perugini is an Shaman, Energy Healer, Intuitive and Entrepreneur. She finds her passion in helping others connect to their soul-led lives through energetic healing and clearing, chakra balancing, mindful movement (dance, yoga and functional fitness classes), guided meditations and intuitive readings. Her twenty-seven years of diverse experience in the health and wellness industry include establishments throughout the continental United States and Hawaii. Her Bachelor of Science degree in Health Science with a concentration in Exercise Science and Sports Medicine, provides a strong knowledge-base to her work. Joy started as a student athletic trainer at Eastern College in Pennsylvania and interned at a physical therapy center treating sports related injuries. During a two-year residency on Maui, Hawaii, Joy served as the Lead Fitness Trainer at the Grand Wailea Resort and Spa, rated the #1 Resort Spa in the World by Conde Nast Magazine. Joy’s tenure there increased her knowledge of the spa industry and importance of customer care. Joy was born and raised in West Hartford, CT and returned there as an in-home personal trainer, helping many clients achieve their wellness goals. She later managed a health and fitness center for a major international corporation based in Hartford, CT. Feeding her entrepreneurial spirit, Joy opened a boutique group exercise and personal training studio located in Plainville, CT, in June 2006. The studio offered customized training to individuals of all fitness levels and abilities, and housed a distinctively friendly atmosphere in an industry known to intimidate many. While still running the day to day activities at the studio, in 2014 Joy decided to expand her reach and spread her love of life, fitness, health and wellness far and wide by forming her web-based company, JoyFit Nation, LLC. Today, Joy spreads insight and inspiration by sharing her message online and in person via her signature programs, retreats, workshops and private sessions.