Lovers Gonna Love

By Joy Perugini | Self-Care

Jan 08

sunset in heart handsYes, yes … “haters gonna hate” … but you know what? As much as those haters hate, those lovers gonna love! Can I tell you the biggest secret weapon I’ve got in my arsenal? The one that makes people refer to me over and over again as a “superwoman”? The one responsible for the overabundance of energy that I exude on a daily basis that has been described as palpable? The one that keeps me going (and smiling) through 12-16 hour days 6 days per week owning and operating two businesses? The one that makes me spread light and happiness just about everywhere I go, literally living up to the name given to me at birth? Yup, it’s love. Love of myself, love of others, and love and appreciation for life. It’s now, you know… life … it’s happening right now. Are you living it? Are you loving it?

Brace yourself, cuz I’m about to get up in your face … I’m about to call you out … so if you can’t stand the heat, get out of my kitchen and off of this blog. If you are not loving life at the moment, it’s because you are choosing to not love it. YOU are the only one standing in your way, so stop blaming everything and everyone else around you. YOUR choices have brought you to where you are. It’s not your parents fault, or your sister’s fault, or that you have a shitty job or boss, or that your partner forgot your anniversary, or that you’re broke, or out of shape. You have chosen these things and you continue to choose to react to them. You have made choices, thought thoughts, and taken the actions that have painted your life the way it currently is. Now, the good news … once you take ownership of this, things will literally begin to transform before your eyes. I promise. Life will love you back in more ways than you could ever imagine if you will only nurture it with your love first.

How can I be so sure of this? How can I PROMISE you that if you begin to show more love and appreciation for even the job (or body, financial state, or whatever ) you have, but may loathe right now, you will become a happier and more fulfilled person? Because I’ve been there. Because I pretty much hated everything about my life (and it wasn’t all that long ago) and I turned it all around.

I’ve owned a boutique fitness studio for almost nine years, and as recently as just four years ago, I almost closed it. I hated it. I hated the hours it took, I hated feeling alone and unsupported, and I hated that I had invested so much time and money into it and that it still wasn’t paying me a paycheck. I was told that because my business wasn’t making money, it was worthless. I was told that because I wasn’t making money, I was worthless. And even though I knew in my heart of hearts that I had helped so many people throughout the years live longer, healthier, better quality lives, I still let those horrible words sink in. And they stuck. For a very long time.

You would think that with all of the hours I was working (and working out), I would have been in great shape, but the truth is, at that point in time I was at the heaviest I had ever been. A solid 30 pounds over my norm. Now that might not sound like much, but I only stand 5’4” tall, so it was a good amount of weight on a small frame (especially considering that I literally workout for a living and have been an athlete my entire life). Long story short, I was miserable. I was pissy. And I was a beast to be around. I was in a dark, dark place, and then it got worse. I experienced a very big, very unfortunate life event that knocked me off my feet and into my bed hiding under the covers for two straight weeks. And when I came out from my cocoon, what I saw astounded me. My business was still standing and fully operational. My instructors and trainers stepped up to cover the 20+ classes I taught per week (all while refusing payment, mind you). The office staff handled the numerous tasks that I only do myself and didn’t think they would even know how to handle, and warm, fuzzy energy flowed from my clients in the form of kind words, gifts, and actions. And there it was. Love. The love that had eluded me for a while, but the love that as sure as the sun will rise, returned to me tenfold. I poured my love (along with a good amount of blood, sweat, and tears) into that business for five years before I started to turn on it, and that love had finally come home to roost. Sometimes it takes a while, so don’t let it discourage you. It can take some time to “undo” established thought patterns, especially those based in fear. But rest assured, they will be undone.

Today, I come to you from a place of love. I love myself more than anyone else in the world. I have to … who could ever love me better than me? And no, that doesn’t make me egotistical. It’s time for you to love yourself too. To love every piece of “you” unconditionally … the good, the bad, and the ugly.  Every curve, every inch, every perceived imperfection (perceived, because I assure you, you are perfectly you)! No one can be a better “you” than you … YOU have a life to rock … now get out of your own way and ROCK IT!

Not sure how to start loving you? I always like starting from the inside out. Click here to see what I mean.


About the Author

Joy M. Perugini is an Shaman, Energy Healer, Intuitive and Entrepreneur. She finds her passion in helping others connect to their soul-led lives through energetic healing and clearing, chakra balancing, mindful movement (dance, yoga and functional fitness classes), guided meditations and intuitive readings. Her twenty-seven years of diverse experience in the health and wellness industry include establishments throughout the continental United States and Hawaii. Her Bachelor of Science degree in Health Science with a concentration in Exercise Science and Sports Medicine, provides a strong knowledge-base to her work. Joy started as a student athletic trainer at Eastern College in Pennsylvania and interned at a physical therapy center treating sports related injuries. During a two-year residency on Maui, Hawaii, Joy served as the Lead Fitness Trainer at the Grand Wailea Resort and Spa, rated the #1 Resort Spa in the World by Conde Nast Magazine. Joy’s tenure there increased her knowledge of the spa industry and importance of customer care. Joy was born and raised in West Hartford, CT and returned there as an in-home personal trainer, helping many clients achieve their wellness goals. She later managed a health and fitness center for a major international corporation based in Hartford, CT. Feeding her entrepreneurial spirit, Joy opened a boutique group exercise and personal training studio located in Plainville, CT, in June 2006. The studio offered customized training to individuals of all fitness levels and abilities, and housed a distinctively friendly atmosphere in an industry known to intimidate many. While still running the day to day activities at the studio, in 2014 Joy decided to expand her reach and spread her love of life, fitness, health and wellness far and wide by forming her web-based company, JoyFit Nation, LLC. Today, Joy spreads insight and inspiration by sharing her message online and in person via her signature programs, retreats, workshops and private sessions.

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Must read this post a few times to ensure I got everything.

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